HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!!!!!

2008. Time passes really quickly. A blink of an eye, a flick of the hair (just kidding), a year had passed and a new year enfolds. It just doesn't seems right. I seem to get a year older already.

Well, a new year means a whole new resolution. What is my resolution? Study harder to get better grades this year, or maybe do more holiday jobs to earn more money ( thinking of the next vacation break already, hehe) or maybe get myself a boyfriend( just kidding)? Still a little blurry but then i just take a step at a time. Forget about new year resolution. Having new year resolution just doesn't fits me. Haiz....

Anyway, just did a youtube-crunchyroll marathon ( in short videos marathon) and i finish watching meteor garden 2 and hana kimi. P.S. note that it is the japanese version and not the taiwan version. Japanese version is much nicer, crankier and funnier. I meant the hana kimi. I just don't like the taiwan version. So folks, please watch the jap version. Like the two guys who starred as Sano Izumi and Nakastu. So kawaii! Omigod, LOVE THEM A LOT!!!!!!! Hope to see more of their shows!

Hehe...anyway school starts tomorrow. Couldn't watch too many shows le. I don't feel excited at all. Felt like still in the holiday mood. Oh why is the holiday so short. Haiz....

Wish me luck for a brand new semester...and all the best in your studies for friends who are still studying and for friends who are working, pay increase!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was so pissed off yesterday! I was working at city hall yesterday(not gonna mention the exact shopping centre but it is very posh and classy) and i met a lot of spoilt brats with their parents.

There was this particular kid whom i was really frustrated with. While his mom was paying for their purchases, he was playing with our cashier machine. His hands was always reaching forward to press our cashier box even though we tried to pull his hands away. Instead of reprimanding his kid for doing that, his mom patiently explained how the machine work and taught him how to use it! I was totally shocked speechless!OMIGOD WHAT KIND OF PARENT IS THIS! We had to kept slapping the kid's hands away while his mom did nothing to stop him. I really wanted to slap that kid's face, no maybe slap his mom's face. Is she bimbo or what? If she want to teach his kid, go somewhere else lah! THAT IS NOT YOUR PLAYHOUSE OKIE! Cannot tolerate such behaviour. His dad was also another irresponsible parent. He never even bother to take his kid in hand. I can't believe such parents exist. I felt like telling them off at the spot, GET YOUR BLOODY ASS AWAY FROM THIS PLACE AND TAKE YOUR SPOILT BRAT AWAY!

Then there was this other kid who went around our stall, reading and and dumping the books on the floor. Her granny had to picked up the books that she had thrown behind. We were really staring holes into her but it seemed to have no effect on her. She still treat it like it is her own business. And then there are kids who like to sit on the floor and read and then step on the books or drag the books on the floor, or tearing the books up, or throw the books around, or just leave the books strewn on the floor. That is why i hate to see kids around. I hate to pick up after them, hate to have to tell them not to mess things up, hate to have to tell them not to sit on the floor. But then i hate their parents even more. I hate to have to tell them to please take their kids in hand, hate to tell them not let their kids run about as if it was a playhouse, hate to tell them NOT TO CALL ME AUNTIE! Excuse me, i am not even in my 21st year yet! Fancy an auntie calling me an auntie. Stupid! You think any one who started work would be an auntie isit? They just like to teach their kid to call others aunties, " Pay money to AUNTIE", " Say thank you to AUNTIE".

Really ah, Singaporean parents are really spoiling their kids. We cannot even tell their kids off. The look on their parents would just turn black. It is as if we were monsters trying to kidnapped their child or what. Then there are parents who are so 'fake'. Whenever they see staffs approaching, they would say in their whinny, high-pitch reprimanding tone," put those books back!Don't mess them up, the auntie come and scold you le!" Whenever i hear this, i get really work-up. So hypocritical!

But there are parents who are really well-mannered and their kids are really well-behaved. You can really tell at one glance. Who had spoilt kids and who had properly brought up kids just by looking at how their parents behaved. Just like what they say, well-mannered parents brought up well-mannered children and arrogant parents just spoilt their kids rotten! Maybe you won't really think that you have bad parenting tactics but then an outsider would be able to see.

I was so angry when i ride the commute on tuesday. It was around i think 5 plus in the evening and i got on this train from jurong east to marina and there was this woman who tried to 'chop' a space beside her with her bag. there was a lot of people streaming in from all doors and it was already packed. She was trying to pretend looking around for her friend or something and i was hoping to find a place to sit down to read my book. So i ignored her and just sat down. Beside me was a little kid. When she finally found her friend, she just shift her 'big bum' and pushed me towards the seat of the little kid. I was so paiseh. That kid was so poor thing as he was squashed between me and his dad. Then his dad had to let up his seat for him whle that woman showed no decency. Haha..though i showed no decency also. Okie both of us are wrong also what. Anyway wanted to apologise to the kid and the daddy also. Please lah even if you came first, it does not mean you have the right to 'chop' spaces. There are a lot of people who want the seat also. First come, first served wat. Obviously she has no manners. To think that she is a working adult.

Anyway, there was this fellow student in school also like that. We were having project consultation and we had booked the time at a time before this group. Then there was a group in front who ate into our time. Then this group behind us stood up at the same time with us when we were preparing for the consultation. This particular 'person' said that this was their timeeven as we explained that we booked the time first. She whined tha about how unfair it is. Helo! we are also the victims rite? So what right do you have to compain to us too? Is it suppose to be our fault that we booked first and that the groups in front ate into everyone's time?
Why are there people like that in this world? So confused with humanity...

The controversy over whether to legalise same-sex marriage has always been debated by countries across the globe. Society norms define marriage as a godly union between a man and a woman, a necessity for reproduction, and continuation of generations. Given that homosexuality defied this godly union, people have mixed responses as to whether such behaviour or thinking should be allowed.

In Singapore, homosexuality was seen as a criminalized act because it went against all conventional expectations of proper behaviour and thinking, against human’s nature for reproduction, against all religions. Under the current gay sex law in Section 377A of the panel code, any male that commits or attempts to commit any act of gross indecency with another male will be liable for punishment of up to 2 years imprisonment in jail. While we are debating on whether to retain the 377A law, many western countries are already doing away the gay sex law and legalising same-sex marriage. Given the compelling western influence in Singapore, we are still unable to break away from conservatism. The majority of Singaporeans are still unwilling to accept homosexuality in the society.

While trying to assure that 377A law is here to stay, Singapore government welcome gays into civil services and permits gay bars and spas in Singapore. They are willing to accept gays into the society yet are adamant that Singapore remains a conservative society. These contradictory moves made by the government sparked the debate on whether Singapore is progressing with the country’s modernised and forward-thinking image.

On the other hand, gay rights advocates are trying to convince the Singapore government to abolish the gay-sex laws. It is more than just the gay rights that these advocates are fighting for; it is the fight for equality, the fight for protection against discrimination amongst the majority, the fight for individual’s right to privacy. Even as the government assures the gay community in Singapore that ‘they will not actively prosecute them’, it is not enough. There are still restrictions as long as the gay-sex law remain. For one, the gay sex law restrict any sexual activities between two males with the threat of punishment Gays live in constant fear of being prosecuted if caught committing gay sexual acts. Moreover, any display of gay acts publicly, such as in movies or advertisements, are subjected to strict censorship.

The gay sex law also prevents committed homosexual couples from marrying legally. They may have longed for the day when they could do what a heterosexual couple did—walk down the aisle donned in gowns or suits, take marriage vows in witness of everyone present, and sealed their love eternally with the exchange of rings. Most importantly, they hope to have the legal means to take care of each other, especially in times of crisis. Freedom to express love openly to each other, a chance to start a family together, the liberty to enjoy the same spousal rights given to a heterosexual couple, the legalisation of same-sex marriage would have made all these dreams come through. However, all these seemed impossible with the gay sex law.

If the government could just stand out to protect these minorities, to do away the gay sex law, to give them their equal rights as civilians, then maybe someday Singapore could become the open-minded and equal society that we claim to be.

Somehow, we could never really predict whether Singapore will become the ideal society that we thought up to be. Only the future knows.

Finally my mid semester test is over!!!!!!!!!!!

Actually only one module lah but then i study very hard on it, so i am glad that the ordeal is over. Currently, i am focus on completing my mini research paper and those amounting projects and tests held after the one week break. So stress up right now with all those assignments and also family problems. Haiz...sometimes, i just want to scream out loud or just break something to vent my anger.

It has been a week or so since i have written my last blog entry. I was so busy the past week, coming home so late from work. So tired...haiz...it is so damn hard to be earning money. I feel so lucky to be going back to school soon, though a little nervous too because of the alien environment.

Anyway, i just read an article recently regarding the low marriage rate of white-collar women. It mentioned that the government blamed the low birth rate to the increasing no of single white-collar woman. The main reason that they gave for not marrying is because these women have the financial ability to support themselves and no need to be dependent on their spouse. Therefore, these women are unwilling to marry beneath themselves. In contrast, men are opposed to marrying women of higher qualifications or positions than themselves. To put it in simple terms, it means men are unwilling to accept a woman of a more capable self than themselves. Okie, that may sound unreasonable and rude, but then it is true isn't it? I guess an intelligent woman does scare the hell out of men sometimes. This is also an increasing phenomenon not just in Singapore, but in countries across the map.

I was pretty frustrated when i saw that newspaper article. I am a woman too. Is it suppose to be our fault that we were better educated now and given a mind to think? I don't talk of man as a whole but on the majority. Why can't man give a thought to the rest of us? Before, girls were not given a chance at school. Their lives were with their parents at birth, then with their husbands at marriage and with their children when old. They made no choice of their own. Their whole life revolve around their family. Furthermore, thousands of girls in countries such as China were abandoned and starved because they were not born a boy. Boys would gow up to be heir of the family, the flame to the next generation. Girls, what are we? A birth machine? I find this unjust! It has already defy the original meaning of it. My mom too has some of the traditional thinking. She believes her sons are going to be the heir or something and she pampered that youngest brother of mine like gold. She wouldn't ask my brother to do much of the housework. I would always end up cleaning up the trails of leftovers my brother abandoned. I hate it but then do i have the right to complain? She thinks girls should know how to do the housework so as to know how to take care of their families in future. Well, i myself don't believe in this kind of bullshit. I believe in give and take. It has to be fair that each contribute a fair share of their effort.

Furthermore, giving birth is supposed to be a sarcred thing, the most precious thing to a female, a mother. But some regard birthing as a necessity--a job. I find it laughable. I guess the few reasons woman nowadays don't give birth are because they have to focus on their career or that they find it hard to take care of the children as they were always not at home. But there are still some who are still willing to have large families with their disposable income. Personally, i think that money and time are considerations to setting up a large family in this new era.

Don't get me wrong, i am not a feminist. I am just a woman struggling to fit into the men's world, figthing for an equal place of my own. The times are changing and evolving. Mindsets should change with times too. Men should regard women as an equal. They could just well be your business partner, your confidante.

Sometimes, it is not easy being a woman.