It has been a week or so since i have written my last blog entry. I was so busy the past week, coming home so late from work. So tired...haiz...it is so damn hard to be earning money. I feel so lucky to be going back to school soon, though a little nervous too because of the alien environment.
Anyway, i just read an article recently regarding the low marriage rate of white-collar women. It mentioned that the government blamed the low birth rate to the increasing no of single white-collar woman. The main reason that they gave for not marrying is because these women have the financial ability to support themselves and no need to be dependent on their spouse. Therefore, these women are unwilling to marry beneath themselves. In contrast, men are opposed to marrying women of higher qualifications or positions than themselves. To put it in simple terms, it means men are unwilling to accept a woman of a more capable self than themselves. Okie, that may sound unreasonable and rude, but then it is true isn't it? I guess an intelligent woman does scare the hell out of men sometimes. This is also an increasing phenomenon not just in Singapore, but in countries across the map.
I was pretty frustrated when i saw that newspaper article. I am a woman too. Is it suppose to be our fault that we were better educated now and given a mind to think? I don't talk of man as a whole but on the majority. Why can't man give a thought to the rest of us? Before, girls were not given a chance at school. Their lives were with their parents at birth, then with their husbands at marriage and with their children when old. They made no choice of their own. Their whole life revolve around their family. Furthermore, thousands of girls in countries such as China were abandoned and starved because they were not born a boy. Boys would gow up to be heir of the family, the flame to the next generation. Girls, what are we? A birth machine? I find this unjust! It has already defy the original meaning of it. My mom too has some of the traditional thinking. She believes her sons are going to be the heir or something and she pampered that youngest brother of mine like gold. She wouldn't ask my brother to do much of the housework. I would always end up cleaning up the trails of leftovers my brother abandoned. I hate it but then do i have the right to complain? She thinks girls should know how to do the housework so as to know how to take care of their families in future. Well, i myself don't believe in this kind of bullshit. I believe in give and take. It has to be fair that each contribute a fair share of their effort.
Furthermore, giving birth is supposed to be a sarcred thing, the most precious thing to a female, a mother. But some regard birthing as a necessity--a job. I find it laughable. I guess the few reasons woman nowadays don't give birth are because they have to focus on their career or that they find it hard to take care of the children as they were always not at home. But there are still some who are still willing to have large families with their disposable income. Personally, i think that money and time are considerations to setting up a large family in this new era.
Don't get me wrong, i am not a feminist. I am just a woman struggling to fit into the men's world, figthing for an equal place of my own. The times are changing and evolving. Mindsets should change with times too. Men should regard women as an equal. They could just well be your business partner, your confidante.
Sometimes, it is not easy being a woman.
